TypicalMATsays email is bombared with a looooooooooooot of interesting stories from you readers and I have a very good time reading all your emails. I really mean it when i say i read them. Aku bace abeh bace sorang-sorang, macam happy gitu.

I will be writing two post for today. But for now, im featuring this readers email before updating more interesting stories and advices for you guys out there (its 5.ooam right now, i'll do this just before hitting bed.)

I hope everyone here really read this story properly coz it's a unique story and personally i think it is a good learning point for everyone of you out there.

Like i say before. Whatever you see it is what you get. I didn't edit any parts of the story in due respect to the person who wrote this email to me.

So here is the story. Enjjoooyy (:

Send from: ________________________
Sent: 17 January 2010 18: 17PM
To: knowyourmats@hotmail.com

Hello readers ,, im js here to share an Awwful experience . tht i played fer a year & 4 month ..
yes u heard me right ,,
so basically , during 2008 .

it is gonna be a very complicated story .. so , read carefully aite !

it goes like ths ,,
i known ' him ' from MSN where i dont know how he even got my Email address .
so , we got to know during february 2008 ,
we chit-chat on the net & 'he' decided to give his Hp no ..
so we started Texting ,, but there werent any calls made ,,
our basic communication was js through messages ..

we got 2gather in march 08 . i js accepted him due to th reason tht i really wanted to forget my ex boyfriend ..
for a month , we js contact w each other through sms .
but one day , i asked him to call me .. & he suddenly questioned me .
" u tk kesah ke suare i mcm pompan .? "
i js said i didn't as it was normal for Some guys to have a KEPIT voice .
so he called ,, but surprisingly . his voice wasn't like how u guys expected to be sumhow like Khairul anwars' .
it was even more girlish .. ( & i started to smell something fishy !)

but not telling him how i felt , i js continued our rshp as per normal like some other couple ,,
telling him i love him & stuff , cos i really suspect something is really really wrong !
& moreover , every single time i asked him out , he whud be giving me ALOT of excuses .

ths went on for 3 month ,, ( tell me , which guy wont want to mit his own gf ?)
then ,, one day .
his 'sister' suddenly wanted to meet up w me , saying she wanted to get to know me even deeper ,
so i didnt have much choice but i was Glad to have meet his ' sister '.

we went out to esplanade & she said , tht my 'boyfee' gave her some $ for her to spend on me .
we went to do a little bit of shopping & went to Popeye @ spore flyer .
while eating ..

'sisters' phone rang & she answered it .
what really shocked me was ,, she has ths exactly same voice as my boyfee .
exactly the same , th giggles , th way she talk ..
( i stench smell of fishiness really make me wanna find out )
so , after we ate , we sat @ th F1 track ..

talked & i js kept quiet about what i was thinking .

went home & called 'boyfee' .
thth same girly voice ..!
so it really pissed me off ..

& since 'boyfee' said 'he' is living in hougang .
a block beside my cousins house .
i went to my cousin house & slack ..
i told my cousin how curious i was .. & she asked me to play SPY .
so i did .. & cousin help me out ,, she asked most of her LEPAK friends if they knew any guy name ( so & so)
but NO ONE DOES ! . ( it really creeps me out)

but i still played on th game ..
i met 'boyfee' sister . & we slacked under her block .
& when she went up to take her laptop .
she left her phone on th table . &
( devastating part !)
i read her msges out of curiousity & suspisious , GUESS WHAT I SAW !!!!

ALL MY MSGES THT I TEXTED ' BOYFEE'
everything ! ..

i was devastated but i acted like nothing happen .

all ths while , i was in a rshp w a girl who actually crave for attention .

cousin said , tht this girl is actually from her ex school
& she HAD NO FRIEND !

so , she played ths game of prank on me js to get someone to entertain her & stuff ..

It will just start off simple by meeting up and you feel that this Mat look terrible (muka pecah rumah!!) and the next thing you wanna do is to run away from that Mat.
Well, here are some reasons TypicalMatsays can offer you:

1) Tell the Mat that you need to go to the ladies
2) Give a face, as if you have something urgent to attend. Eg, family problems.
3) Before meeting him up-close, scan him from far, it will save a lot of trouble.
4) Give the wrong identity.
5) Simply said, “hey I nak jalan urh. Bye (: “

Hehe, TypicalMATsays is not teaching you to be bad, just something that I’ve discovered through these years in the dating field. Chey! Macam paham.

Well, know I wanna tell you guys an experience that I’ve encountered a year back. It’s not me who ditched the Mat, It’s me who got ditched by the Mat. Kncb.

Well, I don’t really care because the Mat doesn’t look that good too. He fetched me at my area and we took the bus to town. So inside the bus we didn’t talk that much and both of us was listening to the earpiece. Half way through, I asked this asshole Mat “where do you want to alight?” and his reply was “Bus stop after Far East.”

So when the bus actually reaches to that stop, He told me that he wants take rokok from his friend and SAAAAAPPP. He’s gone. Aku si bodoh ni, tunggu about 20 minutes with the fact I know that I was being ditched.

Called my girlfriend, told them about what happen and ended up laughing about this matter. Actually, inside the bus I was already thinking of running away from him, sekali I yang kena. Hehehe. (OF COURSE I MET UP WITH MY GF, backup plan)

So now, anyone wants to ditch a date Mat, ditch as soon as possible. Don’t become like me. Anyway, it’s totally funny to think about it from time to time.

If you want to know if a Mat is cheating... listen to your gut.
If you want
to know if a Mat is in love with you... listen to your gut.
If you want to
know if a Mat is honest... listen to your gut.

Now, TypicalMatsays not suggesting you don't analyze, review, and process information. Not at all. What I am suggesting is that our bodies know more than we realize, and our instincts can be more reliable that our conscious minds acknowledge.

Research has shown, time and time again, that our bodies can pick up information long before our conscious mind is aware of it.

Let me be a little more clear....

Our bodies are constantly picking up all sorts of information through our senses. We are literally bombarded with thousands of bits of information that our brains do not bring to our conscious awareness. Right now, your body has a sense of your form in space; your skin is receiving information concerning textures, temperature and weight; your eyes can see much more than you need to at this particular moment; your ears are receiving sounds you are not paying attention to. All this information is entering your brain, but your brain learns to tune out that information which it does not need in your conscious awareness at this moment.

But, what we know is that the information is available and your body responds to information without your consciousness being a part of the process.

When someone is lying, even before you may "know" it consciously, your body often will show signs of stress. If someone is interested in you, your subconscious can pick up clues of which you are completely unaware. Your senses are picking up all sorts of little nuances, glances, facial expressions, and a host of other non-verbal clues and signals.

When I say, "listen to your gut", I'm suggesting that your instincts, your subconscious may be trying to give you information that will benefit you.

Here is what sometimes happens... you get a certain sense (your gut tries to tell you something), but your mind second guesses what is going on. Why? Because the information may be something you don't want to hear, your mind may not want to believe it, or your emotions do not want to face it.

So, your brain ignores, represses, denies, or doesn't listen to what your body and instincts may be telling you.

Now... while I often suggest you "listen to your gut", I'm NOT suggesting you go overboard and stop thinking or go with every little quirky thought that crosses your mind. Please take note! I'm suggesting you listen to your instincts and take in what your body may be telling you. "Listen to your gut," doesn't mean be stupid!

Advice from TypicalMATsays: You SHOW your Mat.

Talking, crying, writing, pouting, yelling, screaming, do not work.

The only way to not be controlled to is take control! As soon as you stand up for yourself and don't give your power away, your Mat will get the message.

The question I have though, is why do you want your Mat who has issues with control? Mat with power and control issues are not great in personality, at least for me.

Women like you, you and you tend to forgive, to make things work, to want to please. These are great traits in some circumstances. They are not great qualities if it means you are feeling controlled by your Mat. No no, it means danger. You can wait and see till one fine day your girlfriends will start calling you 'Dahi ader cap'.

Every single on of you deserve a healthy relationship filled with respect, equality, support, and love. You are not a child or servant.

Never let a Mat like these control you and overthrow you.

XOXO