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Korang nak nikah, parents tak kasi? suruh korang break up lagi?!

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By knowyourmats · April 28, 2010
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It's been an issue lately where TMS hear around byk lah jgk kan bangsa melayu kite nie ader jgk case 'shotgun'. Tapi nie part bkn case yang korang semua tau. What if things happen so fast and when you give birth to a very healty baby, your parents SAYS THIS:

"NEVER ON EARTH AM I GONNA LET YOU MARRY THIS GIRL/GUY!"

WHAT WILL YOU FEEL? is it really fair for the both of you. As we all semua paham kan, berzina is already v sinful but to separate a child from its father or mother is even worst. When the years passes by, each and everyone of you reading this post will be a parents surely(amin), will you want to see your child grow up without either one of you.

That actually makes me think, kenapa parents nowadays prefer to save their face than thinking how their actions will affect the grandchild future.yerlah, kalau mak korang tk kasi korang khawin, abeh anak korang nanti bin or binte dah lain betol tak? lepas tuh nanti kalau anak korang dah besar nanti mesti de tanye kan, kenapa name ___________ bin or binte abdullah? Tak ke kesian?

Tak nak ckp orang melayu je lah, orang orang cine ke india pon same.

So the question is: IS EVERYTHING NOWADAYS ABOUT SAVING YOUR OWN FACE AND FAMILY NAME?

and salah ke kite nie pelihara dan besarkan anak yang lahir luar nikah? if you were to ask me: i would really choose the baby over my own parents. Why? Coz, they are as pure as an angel. they're like the sun which will brighten up your day. While your parents, just wanna save the name.

so who is being unfair now?

ZAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSS, kite layan.

posted by Anonymous
4/28/10

i had a discussion about this over lunch the other day.

usually the two who got into a shotgun marriage is due to the fact that the girl accidentally got pregnant. the guy didnt want it to happen. the guy gets forced into marrying the said girl. fights, dissatisfaction, money issues... then the other girl situation will happen. coz the guy is nt ready. lotsa times this has happened. my dad counsels a lot of couples who want a divorce because of the guy is forced into marriage due to an accidental pregnancy.

the baby can be raised by the girl's family. technically, kalau the guy marries the girl pon.. baby tu tak bole di bin or binti-kan the guy's name because it was conceived before marriage. religious-wise la. tp untuk save face we just bin/binti kan the baby with the guy's name.


posted by
4/28/10

betol, tapi kesian kan baby tuh.


posted by [?]
4/28/10

Aku setuju dgn comment yg pertama.

Ramai masih confuse bab nie. Mereka sangka kan jika pasangan itu bernikah sebelom bayi itu dilahirkan, maka bayi itu adalah anak yg sah. Actually, salah tuh...

Walopon si bayi itu masih lagi dlm kandungan, apabila ianya dilahirkan kelak, bayi itu tetap anak luar nikah jugak. Dia tidak bole di binte/bin namanya kepada lelaki tersebut walopon the guy is the biological father.

Kalo ikot hukum, once janin telah terbentuk di dalam perot si ibu sebelom pasangan itu bernikah, maka bayi itu adalah anak luar nikah.

therefore, there's no point forcing the guy into marriage, since he cannot be the paternatal father to the child at all.


posted by Anonymous
4/29/10

hmm, i really sokong the 1st & 2nd comment. cause in reality it is wrong for u to name the baby after the father cause the baby is consider anak luar nikah. gpun menurut kate org dulu2, if u were to name ur baby names bin w the father's name instead of abdullah, ur anak nyr keturunan for 7 generations, all the kids would born out of wedlock. i dont know whether this is true. im just stating what i heard. =) no offense intended. *smile*


posted by Anonymous
4/29/10

yup agree to the comments above. tms might say kesian baby to not be able to have bin and binte the biological dad even though out of wedlock TAPI lagi kesian kalau baby tu TETAP di bin and binte kan cos it will be religiously wrong for life! lagi mulia di bin binte kan abdullah and find out the truth later rather than hide the truth forever. 1st mistake of marrying while pregnant is alrd wrong, tkkn nak buat dosa lagi bila in future sekiranya baby perempuan itu nak kahwin cos "bapak" die semamangnye tk boleh jadi Wali, jadi sah ke? see, its all a domino effect.

i believe kalau da buat salah sekarang, insaf, do watever is apropriate so as to avoid future mistake. its ok to malu sekarang, jadi keturunan insyaAllah dapat selamat. tapi tu tk semestinye nak heboh2 kan lah kesilapan, cuma dun ignore it and pretend.

wallahualam Smiling


posted by Anonymous
6/08/10

tms, would like to suggest. Hope u guys could check the facts (esp the religious aspects) first before publicly post ur entries. Jgn sampai pembaca salah faham. For e.g, this issue on the bin/binte, kalau dlm agama dilarang, maknanya tetap dilarang. Tk perlu kesian or whatsover, hukum tetap hukum.
Smiling


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